“When you recover or discover something that nourished your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life” ~Jean Shined Bolen
Full disclosure - I’m not a mom. I do nanny for a set of 5 year old twins and their 18 month old brother. I take them to their many activities including swimming, tennis, camp, and playdates. I cook them lunch and dinner and have to constantly keep up with their favorite snacks. We go to the park, the pool and the library. Everyday with them feels like being a hamster on a hamster wheel: constantly going around and around in circles.
I also see all the handwork my mother does. She has four crazy kids that have giant personalities, needs and demands. My mom jokes that she doesn’t have any real conversations throughout the day, only people asking her questions and expecting an immediate answer. She schedules doctors appointments and stays up to date on possible treatments for my dad’s MS. She cooks dinner every night, makes sure my brother gets his homework done and works two jobs. In short, she’s my hero and my favorite human being.
Being a nanny and observing all the work my mom does everyday for her kids and family have shown me how much work and time goes into raising kids.
So, in short, in the daily mess of life it can be difficult to find time for yourself.
Creating time and space for yourself can be difficult, especially when you are also running a household’s schedule. But finding time to create rituals and self-care is essential for the well-being of your mind, body and spirit. There can be a misconception around self-care that it is a selfish and shameful.
Self-care and rituals can take place in an unlimited amount of forms:
- Bubble baths
- At home facials
- A quick manicure/pedicure
- Read a book
- Listen to music that inspires you/makes you dance/ motivates you
- Turn off your phone, even if it’s just for 10 min
- Say an affirmation! One of my personal favorites is “I am a child of the universe, and I have been given endless talents and capabilities”
- Find 5 min to sit in a quiet place and drink tea
Like Caroline Myss said, it can be uncomfortable forcing yourself to make time for yourself. Practicing self care and creating rituals forces you to take a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday and to inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. What are you waiting for? It’s time to be good to yourself.
By: SuperIntern, Gracie Brown